Over the past few months, I’ve learned that people grieve the death of someone close the same but different. What I mean is there are natural human patterns or non-linear stages of grief that people experience: Denial, Anger, Bitterness, Depression, and Acceptance. I’ve cycled through most of these several times after Makenzie went home to heaven on June 3rd. While these are pretty standard for everyone, we land and take-off from these emotions at different schedules (Sorry…I’m on a plane writing this so I couldn’t ignore the metaphor).
The reason this comes to mind is because I’ve been in Minnesota helping my youngest daughter, Maddie, start her first days of 7th grade. While she is doing wonderfully, both of us have experienced the same response from people when we meet and they find out about Makenzie. They are genuine in their grief for us but unsure how to react to when they see us smile. They are surprised to find that while we still hurt, while we still ache, while we still cry at the drop of a … bobby pin, we still grin, laugh and even talk freely about Makenzie.
We are in the jet way of our new normal flight (sorry, again) and getting settled into the first leg of the journey ahead. We still miss Makenzie and always will. We still have our “Makenzie Moments” and still wonder what she’s doing in heaven, but we are ok.
So when you see us, please know that we welcome your concerns and questions. Also know the joy that we have is given to us by the Master Himself.
life changing links:
- Makenzie’s Celebration Service Online – Click Here
- Worship Service Tribute Video
- “I Dance For You My King” (Video: Makenzie’s song by Anthony Celia)
- “Image of Grace” (Video: Song written and played by Nathan Stocker)