All of us have messages, or ‘voices’, coming at us from all different directions. Which voice you chose to listen to will directly affect your ability to move forward, your self-perception and your success. Today, I talk about the different places from which you hear ‘voices’ and how to chose which ones to listen to.
ON THIS EPISODE:
Quote of the Day:
The biggest mistake you can make is listening to people who’ve given up on their dreams telling you to give up on yours. – Umair Hague
Here’s how my work breaks down:
- 80% of what I do is great.
- 10% just what I have to do.
- 10% ugh.
You’re going to hear the ugh part but I’m going to tell you how I’m working through some of the ugh. I have to admit, I’ve been in the blues for the past few months. There are a few reasons:
- Key staff transitions — one rather unexpected and they will change the way we do our work.
- On top of that, our organization is looking at the next years and doing visioning. I’m going to have to present a pretty radical way of “doing business” that I believe is the best way we can achieve our goals.
But here’s the problem — Change creates complaints.
I’ve been feeling blue because I’m listening to the wrong voices.
Voices come from other people.
3 types of people we encounter:
- people who are your nominalists.
- people who are your cheerleader’s.
- people who are your detractors – reference quote.
Who do you listen to?
Voices also come from your own head. That voice usually comes in the form of Fear. Fear draws from my past experiences and my own self-esteem.
How do I listen to the right voices? I simply take a step back and ask, “Which category does this message fall under — nominalists, cheerleader, detractor or my own fear?” I filter all but my cheerleader but cautiously use what the others are saying as guides.
When you have to do something hard to do, which voice are you going to listen to?
When you are feeling like a failure, which voice are you listening to?