I’m all for human rights. Our Declaration of Independence helps spell out 3 basics – life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. But what happens when our human rights intersect with God’s boundaries? Someone or something has got to give.
Enter the gay-marriage debate. One side says that all people should be allowed the “right” to marry. The other says that marriage is a traditional institution not to be messed with. One side clambers at the doors of “equality” while the other fights to keep the bastion of marriage in place.
So why is this such a huge issue for both camps. I believe part of it has to do with an issue all of us – gay or straight – struggle with. Here’s my analogy which will help get at that unexposed issue. As a child, I wanted cookies for breakfast, lunch and dinner. However, my loving mom knew that such a diet wasn’t healthy, so she put a boundary around the menu. Did she hate me? No. Did she want to infringe on my freedom? No. Did she want to diminish my human equality level? No. She simply knew what was healthy and outlined a boundary.
Humanity (that includes me) simply doesn’t like boundaries.
There are boundary markers on the floor, court and field of every sports area. Why? For one, so that the enjoyment of the game is experienced without a wide-open space that runs to oblivion. For another, it also protects the players and spectators from injury.
God’s boundary for the human relationship called marriage is that it is rightly between a man and a women. Why? Is it because He hates gays and wants them to burn in Hell? If you believe that then you don’t know God’s heart so the answer to that one is nope. Is it then because He is some dictator that wants to squash happiness? Again, nope. He created everything including loving relationships for our enjoyment. God’s boundary portends that Biblical marriage is the best way for humanity to experience a marriage relationship. Love whomever you want. There are joys and sorrows in it all.
Often, those who are for the Biblical boundaries God has established on marriage are accused of being homophobic – being afraid of the homosexual life-style. We who are for Biblical marriage are not afraid of those who choose that life-style. Our fear is directed at the declining foundational and moral strength of our country that once feared and loved God but seems to now love itself. As an old civil war saying goes, “You punch out a brick and the wall eventually falls.”
I’m for people but not the choice of the gay life-style, running over toward marriage.
I’m for love but not love the floods it’s banks into hurtful freedoms.
I’m for marriage but not if it is outside of God’s boundaries. Gay marriage breaks a healthy boundary that God has so clearly set up.
BUT HERE’S MY MAIN POINT (and hopefully, you’re still with me): What is forgotten in this whole debate by both sides of the pink-red-equal-sign groups is that ALL OF US are sinners in need of God’s forgiveness. That’s what Good Friday and Easter are all about – God loving all of us enough to send Jesus so that humanity (and even our wayward country) can be saved. Even when we sin and are advocates for our sin, God is still there with His hand from which we experience discipline but also His arm in which we receive love.
All of us are called to respond to all people in truth, grace and love. So if you choose to enter the debate, be cautious. For every finger you are pointing, remember there are three others pointing back.
Christ has died – Christ has risen – Christ will come again.