055: How Leaders Set The Tone [Podcast} – Todd Stocker.com

how leaders set the tone podcast.001As a Leader, you set a tone.  Is it a positive, life-giving one or does it make those who follow deflate?  How do leaders set a positive tone?


ON THIS EPISODE:

I answer a question from Tina regarding social media boundaries

Setting the tone.  First let me tell you what that means, then share a story about my wife from whom I got this idea

Setting the tone means creating the environment around you that sets a particular mood.  This is a bit morbid, but when you walk in a funeral home, what is the mood that is usually there?  Somber.  

Counter that with the tone of an amusement park like Disneyland.  Bright colors, happy music, the characters walking the streets and there’s that song… “it’s a small world!”  Again it sets a tone. 

So let me tell you about what my wife does and how it dovetails with setting the tone.

My wife is a flight attendant and sometimes is lead.  She loves it!  Not because she’s the boss.  Not because she gets to hang out in first class.   But because she sets the tone for the flight even before they leave the crew room.   

She’s professional,  fun, and makes everyone feel confident and safe.

So how does she do it and how can we learn from her? 

  • Portrays confidence physically…  Stands tall
  • She has a positive attitude.  
  • Just verbally in the tone of her voice.
  • She’s encouraging to others…  
  • She believes that others have value and can do the job.

Basically, as lead, the other attendants and by extension the passengers trust Kellie because she believes in them.  

So in your leadership situation… At home, work, church, community….  What tone are you setting?   When you walk in the room, are people uplifted or a they brought down?  Do they trust you?

You want to set a positive, life giving tone no matter what your interactions. And it starts with you.  Make sure you stay healthy physically, emotionally spiritually.  Make sure you find time to reflect and recharge.  Make sure you are learning and growing in all areas of life and this will help set a tone that is positive, energetic and leads to success.  


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The Red Sea Principle: 4 Ways Leaders Get Freed – Todd Stocker.com

exodus_moses_charlton_heston_red_seaHave you ever felt trapped?  I mean, really trapped.  The bills are coming due and you’re moneyless.  The child’s behavior problem is out of control and you’re desperate.  The spouse’s distance is wider than the Grand Canyon and you’re depressed.  You team has no idea how to solve the glitch in the program.  You’re trapped.  Out of options. Just like Moses against the Red Sea.

You remember the Bible story.  A large group of people are at the edge of the Red Sea, hemmed in by the water to the West and a large mountain range to the East.  The Egyptian army is coming down the hill and there is literally no where to go.  But then, God’s intervention allows for an opening and – ala Charlton Heston – you are shown the way out, or rather through.  (Click Here for the Bible Story).

Just like Moses, here are some ways to lead your team out of feeling trapped.

  1. Stop complaining and start brainstorming.  The people in the Bible story freaked out and complained about their situation.  Complaining only wastes thinking energy because it taps into our negative emotional bank.  Leaders think before they speak and use their words to open the doors to possibilities.
  2. Be calm no matter what.  Moses didn’t allow the people’s desperation sway his focus.  Moses kept his emotions in check as he placed his trust in being shown a solution.  Leaders know that eventually a solution or way out will show up.
  3. Take small, simple action.  Moses took what was in his hand and made a simple motion on the water.  When stuck, leaders ask their team simple questions to help discover simple actions.  They prioritize what needs to or can get done now and are strategic in their motions. (Click here to read a post on simple daily action).
  4. Place your trust in something greater.  God knew what He was doing.  He used Moses’ small action to create a HUGE opening.  Leaders know that the best way to lead is to do your best and leave the results up to God.

Peace!

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(If this post looks familiar, it should.  I posted this a few years back but thought it’d be another good reminder for those of us who are leaders)

011: One Secret Of Good Leadership – Todd Stocker.com

Leadership is a precious gift to business, home and community. While there are different types of leaders, there is one secret that all good leaders have in common. That’s the topic today on The Take Back Your Life Podcast


SHOW NOTES:

I’ve been a leadership junkie for years.  Some of my favorite  Rory Vaden’s ‘Take the Stairs, Malcom Gladwell’s ‘Outliers’ and my friend, John Nemo’s ‘Fired Up’.  (See below for links to these books).

Jim collins wrote ‘Good to Great’ and in it, he talks about 5 levels of leadership.  Here is a graphic to describe these levels:
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Level 5 leadership — consists of the duality, some would consider to be paradoxical, of 2 key attributes:
  • Professional will —
  1. Creates superb results, a clear catalyst in the transition from good to great.
  2. Demonstrates an unwavering resolve to do whatever must be done to produce the best long-term results, no matter how difficult.
  3. Sets the standard of building an enduring great company; will settle for nothing less.
  4. Looks in the mirror, not out the window, to apportion responsibility for poor results, never blaming other people, external factors, or bad luck.
  • Personal humility —
  1. Demonstrates a compelling modesty, shunning public adulation; never boastful.
  2. Acts with quiet, calm determination; relies principally on inspired standards, not inspiring charisma, to motivate.
  3. Channels ambition into the company, not the self; sets up successors for even greater success in the next generation.
  4. Looks out the window, not in the mirror, to apportion credit for the success of the company-to other people, external factors, and good luck.

This one — Personal Humility — I call selflessness.

Selfless doesn’t mean, being a milk toast, non decisive or strong leader.  Selfless means someone who is confident in their abilities, is a competent decision maker, but makes decisions based on what is best for the organization – OR for their family not themselves.

For example, Nelson Mandela, Warren Buffett and the greatest selfless leader of all time,  Jesus Christ.  Even if you’re not a religious person and I know many of you listening aren’t, If you read about what he taught and how he lived and ultimately what he sacrificed for the world…  selfless.  He would put himself in situations where he knew he was going to be ridiculed or his reputation would be scared, but he did it for the cause.  He did it for his mission and that was to find people who were broken and offer hope.  Ultimately, the offered his life so that people could be back in a relationship with God.

Think about your leadership…  I believe everyone is a leader.  And the first person you lead is yourself. Are you adding value to them or are you giving yourself praise?  When you go to work, are you only thinking of how it will benefit you are how you can used your gifts and talents to benefit the mission of your company and organization.

Remember that being a selfless leader is the highest goal of good leadership.  2 ways to begin to become a selfless leader.

  1. Honestly evaluate your strengths and weaknesses – confirming and admitting both. This will help give you the confidence and humility that selfless leaders exhibit.
  2. Always take the blame and give away the credit.

Remember that this takes time to develop.

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“WE SURVIVED!” HOW TO STAY CALM IN THE MIDST OF A CHAOS

I work with incredible leaders.  It’s a good thing because yesterday was a crazy day.  This time of year always is in the line of work to which I’ve been called.  But yesterdays event, while planned out in advance, had the potential of a train wreck.  Here’s why…

First, our worship services were overstuffed with, what I call “extras.”  Extras are those elements of a service that are not normally experienced during the course of a typical worship experience.  Important as they are, they simple aren’t the norm.  Extra announcements, extra videos, extra ministry moments, extra commissioning, extra, extra!  They all seemed to fall on yesterday. Second, our worship leader was out of town and her substitute went into labor the night before.  Third, I was late in getting my presentation material to our media team.

As the clock ticked down toward the beginning of the service, all of our team was making last minute changes, edits and additions.  Then the worship team launched into the first song, leading the standing-room only crowd in a smooth and God-honoring worship experience.

On my drive home, I pondered how blessed our church/organization is to have such great leaders.  Leaders who care, leaders who step up, leaders who lead with elegance and grace.   This is what I learned from my team on how to stay calm in the midst of chaos:

In the midst of chaos, good leaders …

  • Find perspective:  With a smile on their faces, my leaders kept reminded me that it’s going to be OK.
  • Remove emotion in the moment:  They clicked into task-mode and got the job done.
  • Get laser focused:  They prioritized what really mattered in a handful of moments.
  • Execute flexibility when needed:  The leaders adapted the worship plan and changed songs, unnecessary announcements and talking, all to streamline what we did.
  • Portray external calm while ignoring internal nerves:  Like ducks on the water, the team looked calm to those they were leading as we all paddled like crazy behind the scenes, just to keep afloat.

Yesterday, no one would have known that the wheels could’ve fallen off in the worship service.  That was because of the professionalism of our team.  I pray that you have people around you like I do.  A big thank you goes out to Ann, Mike, Terry, Amy and Nicole (just to name a few) who did what had to be done, even in the midst of chaos.

How have you learned from the people you lead?

Peace,

THE RED SEA PRINCIPLE – 4 WAYS LEADERS GET FREED

Have you ever felt trapped?  I mean, really trapped.  The bills are coming due and you’re moneyless.  The child’s behavior problem is out of control and you’re desperate.  The spouse’s distance is wider than the Grand Canyon and you’re depressed.  You team has no idea how to solve the glitch in the program.  You’re trapped.  Out of options. Just like Moses against the Red Sea.

You remember the Bible story.  A large group of people are at the edge of the Red Sea, hemmed in by the water to the West and a large mountain range to the East.  The Egyptian army is coming down the hill and there is literally no where to go.  But then, God’s intervention allows for an opening and – ala Charlton Heston – you are shown the way out, or rather through.  (Click Here for the Bible Story).

Just like Moses, here are some ways to lead your team out of feeling trapped.

1 – Stop complaining and start brainstorming.  The people in the Bible story freaked out and complained about their situation.  Complaining only wastes thinking energy because it taps into our negative emotional bank.  Leaders think before they speak and use their words to open the doors to possibilities.

2 – Be calm no matter what.  Moses didn’t allow the people’s desperation sway his focus.  Moses kept his emotions in check as he placed his trust in being shown a solution.  Leaders know that eventually a solution or way out will show up.

3 – Take small, simple action.  Moses took what was in his hand and made a simple motion on the water.  When stuck, leaders ask their team simple questions to help discover simple actions.  They prioritize what needs to or can get done now and are strategic in their motions. (Click here to read a post on simple daily action).

4 – Place your trust in something greater.  God knew what He was doing.  He used Moses’ small action to create a HUGE opening.  Leaders know that the best way to lead is to do your best and leave the results up to God.

Question:  What are some other ways you solved problems? Leave a comment above.

Peace!