074: You Need Mental Weight Loss [Podcast] – Todd Stocker.com

Did you know that just as your body can get out of shape your mind can as well?  When was the last time you got in shape mentally?  How do you do that?  I’ll talk about the importance of mental weight loss and how it is a key to peace and success.

On This Episode:

The basic process for weight loss is simple.

  1. Commit to it.  This is mentally saying, “I’m going to do this no matter what!”
  2. Eat right.  What you take in is healthy (increase the healthy and decrease the unhealthy
  3. Exercise (movement).  You need to get off the couch!

When you lose weight, your body is simply loosening and getting rid of the toxins and sludge that is stored up in your body.

As much as we put our focus into our bodies, what about your mind?

Here are a few truths:

  • The outcome of your life is determined by how you perceive it. 
  • Be Transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Rom. 12:2
  • You have a choice about what you think.

I heard someone say that you aren’t responsible for your first thought, but you are for your second

Thoughts come and they go.  It’s how we deal with them that really matters.

How do you know if you have some extra unhealthy pounds of thought?  Listen to your words.  Negative and positive thoughts show up by what you speak. 

If you don’t take hold of your thought life, every other aspect of your life is affected.  

How do you shed the mental sludge and negativity?  You follow the same pattern for losing physical weight. 

  1. Commit to it.  You decide you’re going to get healthy mentally. 
  2. Begin thinking about good things. “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” Phil 4:8
  3. Put your brain to work.  I suggest right away in the morning.  Do a devotion.  Claim the promises of God over your life.  Look at your calendar and decide you’re going to enjoy every second of it.  When you set your mind right at the beginning of the day, it positively affects your emotional stamina for anything else that follows.

In podcast episode 28, I talk about my morning routine.  






Part 4: Getting Healthy – Can I Do This?

I-can-doBefore I decide to coach someone on getting healthy, I meet over coffee to discuss their readiness.  In that initial conversation, the question “Can I do this?” often comes up.  Usually it is based on trial and failure from the past.

The question is not a good question.  “Can I do this” immediately put’s doubt and negativity on the table.  “Can I do this” attaches a ball and chain to any positive effort you attempt.  In my meeting, the potential coachee has to get to a point of not asking “Can I do this?”  but saying “I can do this.”

It is not positive thinking.  It is not some incantation that holds a magic spell.  It is simply a decision that you make in your mind to follow through, with help, until a small goal is reached.  Results fuel belief which causes us to take more action and get more results.  

The Bible says to be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Every intentional action begins in the mind.  Every positive life-change that you control finds it’s starting line in the mind.

My little book, “Break Through Weight Loss” has so much more to say on this including never doing this journey alone and getting your mind right.  This is why I get people started with my 10 day jumpstart.  10 days is all it takes to see results.  Watch for more on that as well.

Next Post:  Now is the Time!

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Part 3 – How to Get Started in Losing Weight

Did you know

Our bodies are about 60 percent water.  Water regulates our body temperature, moves nutrients through our cells, keeps our mucous membranes moist and flushes waste from our bodies. Our lungs are 90 percent water, our brains are 70 percent water and our blood is more than 80 percent water.

We are ‘water bodies’ and as such we need lots of it to lose weight and maintain health.  

Many of you are asking “how do I get started in losing weight?”  This is it:


Think of it this way.  Let’s say you have a bowl that is caked with dirt.  You chip off the dirt and fill the bowl with water but not to overflowing.  If you let it sit, eventually the water is evaporated and the dirt is left there again.  To get rid of the dirt you have to overflow the bowl which will wash away the dirt.

Losing weight and water are like that.  If you do any exercise at all, even just taking a walk, your body chips away fat.  But if you don’t drink lots of water, the fat isn’t washed out of your system.  

bottle.001I don’t like the “taste” of water so I add a shot of lemon juice.  That rebalances the alkalinity and helps me lose the pounds.  Here’s my schedule of drinking 8-10 glasses per day: 

  • When I wake up and start to make my coffee I have a drink of water.  (total water count: 1)
  • By the time I get to work, I try to finish a 24oz sport bottle of water (total water count: 4)
  • By noon, I finish one more 24oz water bottle (total water count:  7)

By this time, my body is washing out the extra “dirt” in my system so I’m hitting the restroom pretty regularly!  But look!  By noon or so, I’m only 1 drink away from my minimum goal of 8 drinks.

  • Then by the time I get home from work, I’ll drink another 24ounces.  (total water count: 10)

It took 3 days to get use to this schedule but within those 3 days I’d lost 3 pounds.  Doesn’t sound like much but multiply that over a month and you can be on track to lose a solid 10-15 pounds.  Can you imagine?!

So for the next 10 days, follow the above plan and I guarantee that you’ll lose weight.  Before you do so, make sure you reread part 1+2.

The next blog answers the question “Can I do this?”

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Part 1: It’s in your mind

63385-If-Its-Still-In-Your-Mind-It-Is-Worth-Taking-The-RiskLast week, I was blown away with the questions I received about getting healthy.  The questions ranged from “How do I stop binge eating?” to “What does it take to get emotionally healthy?” to “Can I really do this?”  “For me, these were all questions that rattled around my head as well.

Since college, I’ve dropped pounds and gained pounds.  I’ve felt healthy emotionally/spiritually and felt lousy in the same.  I’ve bounced around from extreme to extreme, hoping that this time, it would stick.  Sound familiar?

Finally, I had a conversation with a health coach and it reminded me of a verse …

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Transformation.  In Greek, it is ‘metamorpho’ which is our word ‘metamorphosis’.  Yup, like the caterpillar that changes into a butterfly.

That is what I was looking for.  I didn’t want to TRY something else.  I didn’t want to simply HOPE that health was possible.  Over the next several months, with help, I focused more on that verse than on the actually action of that verse.  What I mean is that getting healthy first and foremost begins with your mind, not your body.  I had to get to a point where I was convinced that getting healthy was something over which I had control.  Internally and externally I had to hear myself say, “I’m going to do this!”  45 pounds later, I’m still hearing myself say, “I am doing this!”

Now, I’m able to help others do the same.

One person I began coaching was feeling so uncomfortable because of those extra pounds.  In our initial conversation, she wanted to try the 10 day jump start that I use to get people on their way.  I said no because I didn’t hear from her that she was going to do it – simply, try it.  The reasons she gave me didn’t center on her but on someone else.  She wanted to look great for her husband.  That’s a good and noble reason but it is not a starting point.  Eventually, she made the commitment for her in her own mind and so far has lost over 12 pounds.

The problem most people have in getting healthy in any area of their life is that they are doing it for someone else.  The spouse, the girlfriend or boyfriend, even other people they don’t know because they want to look attractive.  These are not the reasons that set you up for long-term success.

You have to get your mind right!  You have to come to a point when you know for sure you’re going to do it and it is only then that you’re at the starting line.  The correct ‘why’ has to come before the ‘what’ and the ‘how’.  Remember, be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

So here are a few questions to ask yourself if you’re want to get healthy.

  • Why do I want to get healthy?
  • Is it for me or someone else?
  • Am I convinced that now is the time?  Why?

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What Do You Want To Know About Weight Loss?

happy mug“Alright, you talked me into it!”

I’ve been getting tons of questions about how I lost 40 pound last year.   Example FAQ’s are…

How did you do it?
Was it hard?
How long did it take?
How do you stay on track with a busy schedule?

And the list goes on.  I love this because I am passionate about sharing what Kellie and I learned on our breakthrough weight loss journey.  I also love to see the positive results in people that I’ve coached over the months in doing the same!  Yesterday, one of my peeps said, “I’m down 12 pounds already and I feel great!”

So here is what I’m going to do about it for you.  I’m going to answer YOUR QUESTIONS on my blog over the next few weeks to help you get healthy for summer.

But I need your help!

I want to know what your key questions are about healthy weight loss.

Just click the button to fill out a simple, one question survey. 


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Give It; Receive It

“The sense of fulfillment is often hidden in kindness to others”

I’ve enjoyed being able to coach a few folks on nutrition, heath and weight loss. One person I was coaching recently decided to get healthy and within a week lost a chunk of weight.  Simple to do, really.  Make the decision. Add fresh greens.  Drink more water.  Cut back on carbs.  Keep physically moving.

helping-othersAfter the initial 10 day start program, I asked what they learned so far.  “I am amazed that I didn’t have to change very many things.  I feel like I’m gaining a lot!  I’m gaining confidence. I’m gaining comfort. I’m gaining joy.”

For me, I shared in their joy.  I gained as they lost. A sense of fulfillment was wrapped up in helping someone else.  I know you’ve had that experience as well.  You help someone out – it benefits their life – you share in their happiness.  I believe we are wired this way.

Sad is the person who only helps themselves.  Frustrated is the one who focuses on taking and not giving.  Bitter is the taste of selfishness.

To whom are you going to offer help this week?

(To Find out more about the 10 day start program, click here)



How To Overcome The Feeling Of Failure

Feeling-of-FailureI have a friend who is following my example and getting healthy.  This person put their mind in the right place (which is the first and most important step) and is beginning to shift eating and movement patterns to live a better life.  However, right as they were beginning, they went off-plan and ate a cookie!  Impulsive and available, the cookie called out to my friend as my friend passed the plate in the work room.

“I feel like such a failure!”  my friend said, agonizing at the thought of the broken personal commitment to health.

I know I’ve felt that way and I’m pretty sure you’ve felt it as well.  The dreaded ‘F’ word:  Failure.  So how can we overcome those feelings of failure?  As with anything, we can be transformed by the renewing of our minds.

Here are three mind renewing truths to help you overcome the feeling of failure.

Failure is feedback.  When you change your belief about what you call “failure” and see it as an opportunity to learn, that’s when the power of life-change can happen.  As I coached my friend through this earth-shattering event (read sarcasm), they began to identify why they ate the cookie and how impulse in the past should be redirected in the future.  As one begins to lose weight after applying the steps in Break Through Weight Loss, one begins to recognize how foods (and snacks) affect health control and management.

Failure is an event, not a label.  The problem with saying negative statements as, “I’m such a failure,” or “I failed again,” is that you are hanging a sign around your neck when it should be hung on the event which didn’t go according to plan.  Being negative about an event can keep you stuck.  Listen … You are not a failure.  You failed at something.  You still have value.  You still are loved.  Some of you need to linger on those last four phrases.  Write them down.  Put them in your car, your purse or wallet.

Most failure is not final.  If my friend continues to dwell on the event of ‘failure’, then that event holds power in their life until its broken by a mental shift.  Once the cookie processes through the bodies system, it’s gone.  Now, the consequences may be an extra workout or more water or having to eat more vegetables the next meal, but most things in life are redeemed by how we respond to them.

I can’t stress enough these three mental responses to ‘failure’.  Again, the war in in your mind.  The battles come in your choice of response and in your patterns of belief.

(By the way, if you are going to take the health journey, DO NOT compare yourself to anyone else.  You are you [deep thought].  You are created in a certain way.  Do your best and find others to help).



How NOT to accomplish your goals

Enjoying pure freedom | Man on a jettyA friend of mine has jumped on the weight loss journey. I hadn’t seen this person for a few weeks but knew that she was significantly lighter than before. When I did see her, she looked great. I could tell, even as a guy, that she had lost a decade of pounds. My natural inclination was to say, “You look great! I heard how much you lost.” But instead I chose a different bent and said, “You look great! I heard how much you gained!” She obviously looked at me with one eyebrow jetting up and the other frowning down revealing both her confusion and irritation. Then I said, “Yes. You’ve gained beauty. You’ve gained confidence. You’ve gained comfort.”  She smiled.

You see, the problem with New Years resolutions is that they tend to focus on the negative and not the positive. We sprinkle our statements with words like “lose” “stop” and “quit.” I think that is a wrong mindset and why statistically most people fail at their resolutions by January 15th. The Bible says that we are to think and focus on whatever is good, healthy positive and helpful (click to read the verse).  That is where true change happens. That is where the vision of your goal is energized.

So as you think and plan for this next year, write down the “gains” and not the “losses.” Don’t lose the weight, gain the comfort. Don’t stop bad eating, gain healthy options. Don’t fear change, embrace progress. Remember that God gives us a new start every year but more importantly, every morning!


break through weight loss(note from Todd:  “This past year I gained all of the above by dropping 40 pounds.  I wrote about it in a short ebook.  You can check it out by clicking the link below.  Several people have already achieved their goals using the 5 keys.  If you have read the ebook, I’d love to hear your feedback.  Make a comment on Amazon.  It’d really help others.  Thanks!)

CLICK HERE for “Break Through Weight Loss”